In some ways, the more one thinks, the closer one feels to getting the answer...but in the end, it's hard to tell what is really the safe answer. I started to dislike being like that at one point, and my motto is, "make quick decisions and act fast." I choose the first answer that feels "right" to me. I believe that people have the individual right to decide how they want to live. So whether you just listen to what others say, or get stuck a lot of times...and cause trouble to others, it ultimately comes back to yourself.